Just got back from a day out with Master at a city , window shopping for things for Christmas and getting one of our son's a birthday prezzie and have to say what  a lovely day it was.  Not only was it more like summer but Master also  treated me to a new scarf...... its rather a fabulous looking one all of the colours in the rainbow and nicely textured as well, with a mixture of cotton and wool . ( i guess the description doesn't do it justice but i will try to remember to take a picture of it later. )  i managed to find Master a new pair of braces ( i believe they are called suspenders in USA , with skull and crossbones on them and extra nippy grippy bits at the end. We went to Nando's for dinner and had hot chicken , olives, corn, and  hummus which came with pitta bread. Master fed some of it to me and i was totally happy and spoilt.
On the journey back home He happened to mention that pirate braces as He so fondly called them were not just for holding His trousers up, and of course thinking out of the box, i hope He does not think of it again to soon as i think that He has just found a replacement for the clover clamps that vanished got lost ummmm well i think you get the picture, and the scarf has to uses as well.............( more reports on this when and if it happens....
It has been such a beautiful day , hope you all have a good one as well....
hugs
saffy




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 While walking our husky this morning i was amazed to see just how much autumn is creeping in, and the colours that have started to change on the plants shrubs and trees since last week. BUT by far the most beautiful thing that i saw as i rambled on with the dog , were hundreds of spider webs hanging delicately in trees , bushes and plants. Some of them stretched across the paths , and some of them were occupied by big fat spiders. Now i don't know if they are there when i go out all the time , or our town has suddenly had an explosion of these creepy things, but there seemed to be a glut of them.
This reminded me of some pictures that Master had been looking at , of Japanese girls with crickets, spiders and bugs crawling over various parts of their bodies and it caused  a shiver to creep up my spine. i am not afraid of the little critters.. growing up on a farm put paid to this, because there was so much wildlife. BUT Master seemed pretty keen at one point to try this bug idea out. So far though He seemed to have forgotten the idea, and i guess i am hoping that he will keep forgetting it as it doesn't appeal that much.
On a more cheerful note, Master has given the marks a refresh every now and again when He comes to bed with His dragon cane. The other night He came in and was greeted with the sight of my naked body mooning at Him as i slept blissfully unaware  sprawled over His side as well as my own. He decided to poke me with the cane, and got no response, , which was followed by apparently a couple of raps.. ( i can not remember i must have been having a good sleep. ) At this point because i was laying so quietly and didn't even move for them , He start to worry that i was dead for a brief second till apparently i rolled over and continued to snooze. ( in His defence i do normally jump about at the thought of that cane and or wriggle everywhere. )
And so when i was told  this in the morning , i thought that He was joking ( He wasn't i have seen the evidence) which only goes to prove that the wriggling a fear that i used to experience is disappearing and can be conquered.
Have fun all
hugs
saffy



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 Today has been a good day,  Master and i unexpectedly got some time  to ourselves , and the sun is out. I have warm fuzzy feelings left over from yesterdays maintenance dragon canes, and the world seems a beautiful place. i have the feeling that the cane strokes are getting harder for these sessions and last night He confirmed it , but this is good because it means my trust for Him using  canes and the actually sight of them no longer sends me into a blind panic. Maybe , just maybe , my phobia of them is vanishing and the legacy of the broken one that was used in anger in a previous relationship is vanishing.
i guess when i was told that the only thing that has the power to scare you is the thing you refuse to face , that it was right.. and now i am well on my way to enjoying something that Master obviously loves.
Hope you all have fun and a good weekend
hugs saffy


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 Monday night was a nightmare , middle son had decided that he wanted to go to a midnight game launch for GTA5, and the person that had kindly said that they were going to take him  and his friend pulled out at the last minute. So, Master ended up taking Him and said that i could go along .
We, well Master, mistakenly thought that it was going to be like the warcraft game launch we went to , but , how wrong we were .
The queue must have been for three hundred people , twelve O'clock came and went and the queue was whittled down person by person with only fifteen being allowed in the shop at once, and then some of them had trade ins so even this was not straight forward. Master decided that we would go for a walk while my son and his friend waited in the queue. We walked keeping an eye open for a place that was open and sold coffee , ( not an easy thing when it has gone midnight and there is no place open,) finally finding a lonely kebab shop by the sea , With very nice owners, who got  a surprise order and we purchased kebabs for us all...
By the time we got back to the shop it had been nearly an hour since we left, and the queue was larger than ever... Son looked as if he had not moved in his place at all, so we headed to the car to eat.. Crowds are not my thing and i get panicky in built up crowded areas.. but having Master by my side although i was scared, i coped. Finally son got the game at three am in the morning.. and Master has said we will NOT be going to any more midnight launches.
After having a very relaxing day the next day i was taken out for a meal the yesterday and He paid to have my hair done, while He went shopping  . He would have done this on Monday as it was our anniversary and even though we celebrate it on October 31st ,( as this was the date He moved in) the 16th of September was the first the date of the first time we met. and so we do try to do something special each year on these days as well.
Hugs to you all and have a good Thursday
saffy





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Kenzie's spanking questions... thanks they made me smile.

1.) Was there a certain event from your life, that sparked the spanking interest? If so, feel free to share:

Not that i can remember. 

2.) What do you most often call your HOH/Spanker? (Sir, Master, etc.)

 Bear or Master depending on who is about . ( we came up with Bear because i felt so safe with him like a giant teddy bear, and it is a non offensive term to use when there are nilla people about .

3.) What does your HOH/Spanker most often call you? (Young Lady, Girl, etc)

custard, girl or on the very odd occasion my real name ... depends who is about. 

4.) We're building a big spanko bonfire, which one implement are you bringing to toss in?

As much as i would like to say an implement , i am not allowed to ( i made a promise before he moved in never to bin, burn or get rid of any equipment before he moved in , when i jokingly said i was going to burn  some of the toys we had, when he wasn't there ) But if i hadnt have made that promise it would be clover clamps... they do get lost loads :D .

5.) We all know how many punishments there are to choose from; spanking, lecturing, corner time, etc.. but what about rewards? Do you have a favorite 'reward' that is used? If not, what's something you'd like used as a reward?

My favourite reward is Him running me a hot bath with some bath oils in it and just being able to have float time  while He cooks dinner. 

6.) What's that one phrase, that when it's used, you know you're in trouble?

 

Its not a phrase it is an eyebrow raising up while the other one remains still....and a big sigh.... 

7.) What's something you'd like to cross off your spanking bucket list? Being shy is not an option here people. ;)

Spanks on a mountain top... don't ask why, it just appeals .

8.) Someone comes to you, and says they just started practicing domestic discipline. What's the biggest piece of advice you can give them?

We are all different , dont think that your journey will be the same as anyone elses, or the same as the bdsm films/books you might have read... enjoy it and always remember why you entered the lifestyle. 

9.) Where is the craziest place you've been spanked?

the middle of a busy department store with a frying pan that He had decided to buy... just to see if it had a good smackability to it. 

10.) We talked about a spanking bucket list, now let's get a little more into it.. what about a BDSM style bucket list? What's something you'd like to cross off of that?

Probably going away for a week in one of those specially designed houses , so we could just have a private weekend of play and use equipment that we dont have and best of all not be disturned by family lol.

11.) Is there a punishment you thought you'd never try, but ended up trying and finding effective?

Does this have to be answered................(ok it would be having my pc time taken from me, hopefully this is small enough for him not to be able to read )

12.) What is something you wish you knew before you started DD/TTWD?

Communication can save allot of sore red bums (silence isnt always golden) 

13.) If you could take a break from one rule, for one week, which rule would it be?

 i wouldn't want to...the rule is there to keep me safe and as much as i loathe it at times.... i can also respect and accept it.

14.) This might sound like a no brainer at first, but really think about it. If you could only have one sort of spanking in your dynamic, would you rather it be discipline or fun?

Discipline. there are other ways to have fun...muhahahahaha

15.) If your HOH/Spanker messed up, and offered to let you spank them, would you? Why/Why not?

No, because we all make mistakes, i never get punished for a genuine mistake and i wouldn't do it to Him if He did.. we are both human. 

16.) What is your favorite form of aftercare?

my safe spot under His arm and the masses of cuddles i get. 

17.) How was DD/spanking brought up to you, or how did you bring it up to your partner?

i  replied to His advert on an internet site.. and so it didn't really need to be brought up as it was a BDSM one. 

18.) If your spanker could use only one implement from here on out, what would they use?

His hand... it is always with Him 

19.) Do you have a favorite pair of panties to wear when you know you're going to be spanked? If so, what are they?

i am not allowed panties with spanks ... so.. no

20.) Unfortunately/fortunately (depending on how you look at it) mind reading hasn't yet been perfected. What's something you want your HOH/Dom/Spanker to know? (For example, don't be afraid to spank harder, or something along those lines.) Don't be afraid, spill!
Dont be afraid to take me deeper i wont break :P *Bonus Question (just because it's fun)- Is there a picture (spanking, dd, Ds, etc related) that you just really love? If so, let's see it!*

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bliss

 Just a  quick note to say hi, i am still about but being kept uber busy by Himself and life. We have had a lovely week , and i seem to have allot of glitches sorted out by Master, least said, but there is a bit of a reminder going on every time i sit down. ( and it makes me grin as well) .
Instant girl happiness.........just add dragon cane and listen to the sighs of pleasure.
hugs
saffy



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the juggler

 The sun , ( despite the weather report of the last few days ) has decided to shine again nice and bright, scorching the already burnt grass, and making it a deceptively warm day. i suppose i should really be doing all sorts of good things , such as finishing staining the fence and gate in the back garden, the extra bit of weeding that has sprung up, at the front garden. Instead of this i am inside on the PC , waiting , because i know that i am also meant to be ready to go shopping for the youngest ones birthday gift when Himself is ready. (i can not believe she is twenty-two this year and i guess i kind of feel old.)
Watching our young ones grow up , for me, has been a constant juggling act, putting their needs and wants in place and trying not to spoil them, the mini mile stones that they make like the oldest ones first day at University, or when the youngest got her job in a bank, the middle one when he achieved a goal, ( he is autistic) and then , just about seven years ago , meeting Master for the first time and adding Him in the balance that is tossed up in the air  and caught again.
i think i knew it would be hard to add someone in the equation to catch the balls for me (as so to speak) and even toss them in the different direction to add  a knew slant to things, but i am so glad that i did it, and indeed that He agreed to become part of this ever changing life that we live in.
It has taken me , a long time to let go of the reigns, and acknowledge that i don't really need a safety net because there is already one there from Master. i am still learning about the way he likes things done.... and trying not to keep to my old routines ( or to expect to be able to keep to them) , but i am so glad that this is working.  Even on the days that i think that it i am failing i only have to look back to see the good things and progress and know that it is the right path... ( a rocky one at times, but hey nobody said it would be easy) .
The hardest part in the beginning ,i think for me this time, was to allow myself to trust this Man , who cares and loves me so completely, and not give others room to judge Him,  or think that He would hurt me or damage me beyond what has been done  by others before. He did in fact help  me to heal, and become a stronger more caring person. i don't know if others see this.... ( and to be honest i don't really care, as i know He is right for me.) i just know  we both made the right decision .
So i unlearn the other things that previous relationship Masters have taught me and learn to do it Master's way....... NOBODY EVER TOLD ME HOW HARD IT WOULD BE TO DO THIS, because i suppose it is like using the left hand when you are right handed or visa verso, and in the beginning it feels unnatural... but after the talks and the closeness that we have shared the last few days it starts to feel correct and the old ways have become alien.
So we toss up more balls ... i graciously accept the name of custard that he has started to call me ... ( don't ask) and we create a dazzling display of love and security for ourselves .
Have a good monday all
Saffy




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 Taking direction and doing things for myself is sometimes hard.  i had a relationship years ago when the time that i had was micromanaged, and as silly as this sounds i kind of got on quite well with this system as i knew exactly what i was meant to be doing and what i wasn't. It might have helped also that i knew if i wasn't doing it that there would be consequences to pay.
Anyhow that was the past. At the moment , because of various points in our lives... Master seems to be OK for me to drift  along and make decisions on my own and do things . Yes granted there is a list of things that i was given ages ago and i am asked why i don't use these, and yet i feel there are no boundaries , and am kinda trying to decide whether this is a good thing or not.
Sometime i worry when i write things on here that i am a whining brat.... i know that at times because i don't conform to others ideas straight off , that sometimes Himself thinks so, and yet this is my blog and my place to vent and say what is on and in my mind. If it was always sugar and roses and nothing was ever wrong then it  would not be right.
All i know is that with the heat and the way things are i am finding life tough at the moment.
Hugs to all
saffy






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 Well, yesterday Master and i finally had the house to ourselves, and i think He made up for all the times He had planned things , and they hadn't happened. As for me i am walking about with a large grin on my face and feeling good.
He decided that He could use His hands to make me cum and use them He did, so much so that He then found the special spots ( to my embarrassment afterwards ) that made me squirt and continued to make me cum and soak the bed over and over again. ( At least the bed has been christened now) If some one had have asked me what day it was i  don't think that i would have been able to tell them.
Of course He added me the extra bit of pain factor in at the end as well.... and to be honest i think at some point i begged for the cane as well.
Sadly time is not on our side most of the days , but when there is a gap Master always manages to fill it and make me one content ,(if not a little sore) girl. But for now i am meant to be reviewing my instructions and lists..... (September crept up on me and i have not done this) and i better do it before Tuesday.
Take care all
 saffy





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